In all seriousness, I really needed to read this article. I pretty much hate myself, and can’t see any future where things turn out okay because I believe all the negative things that have been said. I’ve lost a bunch of weight, and regained it all in recent years, which probably hasn’t helped, and I know that I’m… Read more

i am loving every single person on here having a shithole panic attack because someone suggested they think about why they don’t date fat people. Read more

Everyone is complaining about the definition of “fat,” and I’m just over here like, “Hey, I’m fat. Where do all the fat lovers hang out?” Read more

“I’m completely shocked that the substance of the article was ignored while fights broke out about who is or isn’t fat,” said no one. Read more

Y’know, I am willing to bet that there are charismatic, handsome fat dudes out there who are absolutely killing it. But three years ago, when I slept around a lot, I never once had sex with a fat dude. Read more

I can relate. My fetishes are centered around domination/submission so having a big fat guy has always fit into that. Now, fat people had never been a fetish, but I’ve never ever been into the physical aspect of guys...(no, REALLY). I’ve been with every type...super skinny, super fat, in between, women, men. I’m very… Read more

Congratulations Eloise, you’ve just discovered the diseased heart of modern e-progressivism: no one “tone policies” like the people who invented the term “tone policing.” Read more

I wouldn’t call you fat, personally, but unlike some of the commenters here, it’s not my job to police how you describe yourself. The Dolezal comparisons are ridiculous.

Didn’t realize there was such a stringent criteria to be “Fat.” Does this also mean there is only one set definition of “toned” or “ripped” or “in… Read more

The first time I felt a big ol’ belly pressing down on me...good lawd!! Read more

If you are truly 6’2” and 180lbs, you can fucking handle it, bro. Read more

i appreciate your overall message that it’s most attractive when people love themselves and that it would be great if people could love themselves more. Read more

This is a nice perspective in amongst the rather angry ones. Read more

My husband is fat (19 stone / 6ft). He was the fattest he’s ever been at the point I met him (his scales only go up to 20st, so more than that), and I adored him on sight, even though I was married to someone else at the time. I have never known love or sex like the love and sex that we have. I didn’t actually know… Read more

So many amazing and thoughtful ideas in this post, yet everyone is focusing on her weight and how she thinks of herself as fat (which she says IS NOT A BAD THING). Way to miss the point. Read more

1. Well, this comment section predictably turned into missing the forest for the trees as everyone scrambled to determine if the author is or is not properly fat. Read more

Last year I dated two men who you might classify as “obese” and who I classify as “some of the best sex I’ve ever had.”

UGH this article & all of its qualifying numbers!!! Have not learned that CLOTHING SIZE IS A FUCKING RIDICULOUS LITMUS TEST FOR SKINNY/FAT/AVERAGE???!!! Read more

Before I settled down comfortably in monogamy, I was amazed to be the only person in my social circle who didn’t have a “type”. Fat, thin, blonde, brunette, ginger, pale, dark, eye shape round, eye shape almond... there’s a whole spectrum of things to like about partners. Why not admire one person’s sculpted clavicle… Read more

This was an uplifting and amazing article. I desperately needed to have these words put down so that I could read them. It made me feel beautiful/handsome for a moment. Like “Yeah, I’m okay. Or at least not so bad.” I felt a serious warmth spread through me like it was okay to accept myself. Thank you so very much for… Read more