I abhor Lindsey Graham’s politics, but if I ran into him at a party and didn’t know who he was, I would find him to be totally delightful and would probably talk to him all night.
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This morning on MSNBC, he said “If Trump wins, we’ll have to build a wall to keep people IN.” And then “John Kasich would beat Hillary by eleven points, so obviously he’s out.” Read more

Were you one of the ones that were labored to death by chance? Read more

You’re going to have the most beautiful ice luge at your wedding someday! (ducks and hides) Read more

What’s wrong with misanthropy? Read more

I got married in my jeans and a white shirt — just like my husband did... we were both beautiful, because we were making a gutsy move — supported by a very select number of friends (2) and family (1)... total.

It always seems to me as if the “beautiful bride” business is just reinforcing the patriarchy and reviving a… Read more

If we’re going to banish a wedding cliche, let it be any variation on the oh-so-grating “I’m marrying my best friend.” Read more

As feminists, can we all band together to stop shaming women who, through their own personal choices, desire to take their husband’s last names and have their father’s walk them down the aisle? I am sick and tire of explaining myself to supposed feminists judging me for my personal choice. No, I am not pandering to… Read more

“You’re going to make a HIDEOUS bride.”

I was a beautiful bride but I do think that saying that so much puts a lot of attention on women’s looks in one particular day. I much rather hear: I wish you both the best, your future husband is a wonderful guy, you are a great couple, etc. Those were the comments that I liked the most. Read more

I can go one worse: once we were married, people started to tell us what BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN we’d have. Because, you know, I’m mixed-race, and he’s really different-looking from me... Read more

So much yes. Early in my engagement, my mother turned to me and said, very heartfelt, “You are going to make a beautiful bride” and I almost threw up a little in my mouth. She was completely sincere, and genuinely wanted to make it clear that she was proud of, and happy for, me. I think the issue is that “You will be… Read more

THANK YOU. The worst is when people act like you OWE it to them to look “like a bride.” I got my hair cut recently, and when I went home for Memorial Day, people were saying things like, “Ah, well that’ll probably be the last time you can get it cut before The Wedding. You need to give it time to grow out.” Read more

Wouldn't it be fantastic if Miss Lebanon sent a big fuck you and said yes, I'm promoting world peace and gave Miss Israel a giant hug? Sure, she wouldn't be able to go home, but I dream of a world where women change it by shoving the hate away. Read more

Halloween 2003 took place while I was in third grade, Read more

I like how everyone here has to pretend like we don't all read RebloggingDonk. Read more

Habitat: Bull Feeneys, Grittys, those bars down at the end of Market St in the Old Port in Portland. Read more

Uniform: Flannel Shirts, Carhartt Pants, Work boots.
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