I hate it too. So much. It’s also harder to get rid of than the negative thoughts like the other I mentioned because that just takes a second of reason (“slutty” is some patriarchal bullshit that I refuse to impose on myself, or anyone else for that matter) and another of getting mad at my suppressive upbringing (fuck… Read more

I hate that “trying too hard” demon that likes to show up on our shoulder and put us down. I haven’t had to deal with her since moving to NYC, because you pretty much never look like you’re trying too hard here (someone’s always trying harder!). Read more

I’m not a tech bro, per se, but I do work in tech in SoCal and the standard uniform is a T-shirt and jeans. Every once in a while I feel like getting a little bit nicer and I throw on a decent button-down. It really confuses my coworkers. Read more

Ah, I went to Sunset, Lincoln, a charter school, and then AHS, class of ‘04, then moved away after freshman year. So we went to high school together. You probably knew my brother. Read more

I love everything about this. Read more

Several of those items are too cute for words.
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Thank you for introducing me to Wylie Wilson! My goodness, those bras are doooope. Gonna have to save up for one, lol, but hell yeah can’t wait to buy one!! Read more

I live in Oregon, and no one dresses up here. Good for you for moving to a place where you can shine like the sun. Read more

Now that is how you do a monogram, dammit. I love this, you look like Janet Leigh.

Loved this article and I love your outfits and I love your attitude. I work with children so my daily outfits usually don’t stray far from yoga pants and t-shirts, which is fine because I value comfort on the job most, but I’ve taken to “dressing up” for any other reason/occasion as much as possible to offset that.… Read more

I love it when people have their own style! I am not fashion- conscious, but I really enjoy seeing people walking around with their own thing going on. There is also something about seeing a person who is just *themselves* that makes me happy :)
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Love that bra! One of the only things that makes me wish I was rich would be the ability to treat my underprivileged boobs to high class style/comfort. Read more

“femme tomboy” wow. I think you just described me. a great relief has come over me. seriously. Read more

I love you. You are wonderful. Don’t ever change. Read more

I absolutely love your look - and your confidence. It took me a long time to realise I was femme-presenting genderqueer, too (and bisexual), and working out what the hell to wear to suit myself has also been a lot of hard work. I’m not as fabulous as you... but you know, I think I’m currently aiming to be. :) Read more

I didn’t know they sent the Delia*s catalogue to Humboldt zip codes…I just wore stuff from JC Penney’s, the thrift stores, and eventually Old Navy when we got one of those… Read more

“I identify as femme-presenting genderqueer” Read more

Same and same! Read more