They don’t understand that this isn’t the way you are treated in the beginning. It’s gradual. When it first happens it seems completely out of the norm and you wonder WTF just happened and why... It’s not like they do this on the first date where you would know to run. It’s not like they don’t wear you down with all… Read more
If they own them jointly and he says no, that should be the end of it. What’s even going though your mind to try and force your ex to have more kids with you? Read more
Yeah why don’t more people hang out with their rapists to do their jobs? The nerve. Read more
My sister was in an abusive relationship, and, honestly, the only reason we didn’t report is because we were pretty sure that doing so would mean she’d be cut off from us. To keep the lines of communication open, we kept our mouths shut. It’s a hard call to make, but that’s what we did. Read more
I have been in a physically abusive relationship and I couldn’t imagine my mom doing anything worse than trying to go the police on my behalf. It would have alienated me and isolated me and maybe gotten me killed. Read more
no. i’m saying that until you’ve lived through it you don’t know what the best course of action is. you don’t know what will or will not keep your child safe. it’s paralyzing. i truly hope you never find yourself or your child in this situation because i can speak from experience when i say that the feeling is that eve… Read more
I was in an abusive relationship when I was 17. It lasted for two years. He was only a couple of years older than me, and had been through some pretty horrible stuff (sexual, physical abuse) and the physical abuse is what translated from his past into our relationship. I am a really headstrong person, and so I didn’t… Read more
I just don’t see how you can truly be feminist and vote conservative. Unless your view of feminism is anti-abortion and anti-BC-access....
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I’m really sad to see you go. The beauty box reviews have consistently been something that I look forward to. I haven’t subscribed to a box yet because I only have room in my budget for one box, yet every time I read your reviews I change my mind on what box I should order! I’ve bookmarked your site, and I will… Read more
Lesbian Feminist Haunted house?!?!? That’s all. Read more
Yes, all of this - and not just physically ill, but through mental illness like depression. I’ve known couples that have survived cancer, only to fall apart when one became severely depressed. It’s one thing to stick together through an illness that has clear physical symptoms and where their recovery can be… Read more
See I hesitate to post this for free of being blasted for not respecting someone's illness yada yada but here goes. My understanding is that “chronic Lyme disease” is a sort of bullshit catch all that people diagnose themselves with. I’ve know two people who have it. Both rich, older white women and it is all they… Read more
It's true. Last year one of my best girlfriends started her battle with cervical cancer. Her soon to be former husband would tell her repeatedly that it was probably just her time to go. 😡 Read more
I count my lucky stars every day. Not everyone could put up with my arm-long list of issues, that’s for sure. Read more
I hate to break it to you, nothing prepares you to care for an ill spouse. It’s pretty fucking hard. Read more
Yep. Cindymoo has stuck by me, but she’s known that I’m sick since we were teenagers. It’s a testament to her commitment to me that she hasn’t cut and run when shit has gotten really bad. Read more
Mass shootings just this year. Just. This. Year. Interactive map at the link. I don’t know, maybe it’s time to do something about the proliferation of military hardware in this country?
Just bail? Posting bail gives him more access to potential victims when the crime he’s been charged with is almost always of a serial nature. Read more
I am also a chin-plucker! A very frequent one. I’ve had them since my early 20s. My mom thinks it’s due to lesbianism! Read more