alutkin
Aimée Lutkin
alutkin
Contributing Writer, writing my first book for the Dial Press called The Lonely Hunter, follow me on Twitter @alutkin

There is a kickstarter now to create the app. They met their goal. I suggest checking the kickstarter page out to just read the background of this instapage. But, there is a (celebration/fundraiser) party tmrw night in Crown Heights, will be a good one. Info in bio or one of the posts. @ Fredericks and Mae 9pm I think. Read more

Agreed: be up front and honest about your relationship status and what you are looking for on the app. Being deceptive or unclear will eventually work against you. Read more

This is one area when it’s easier online than in real life. As you say, you can just make it plain in your profile. In real life, I’m never sure how to deal with the situation where I might like to flirt with someone, but they know I’m in a long term relationship. You have to say it early or you seem like a creepy Read more

I have two additional suggestions for what to leave out of your profile. Read more

My profile was almost a direct copy-paste of Charlie Kelly’s dating profile from It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia, but with my own pictures. I’m getting married to a gal I met through Tinder in October.  Read more

WOW are there are a lot of commenters with a gross (and frankly racist) misunderstanding of how our immigration laws work and what is happening at the border and around the country on a daily basis. I’m sure all of your families were on the Mayflower, too, right? Oh they weren’t but they came over the right way? Got Read more

If wood or laminate, I would dust from the ceiling fan down. Vacuum, then hit it with a Swiffer. This works well with my house with a husky that sheds like there’s no tomorrow. I use a microfiber cloth with either Windex or hydrogen peroxide for the night stands if needed. The whole process only takes a few minutes. Read more

According to what J.K. Rowling has published on Pottermore, Neville was almost a Hatstall (5+ minutes to sort) because he wanted to be a Hufflepuff and the Sorting Hat was insistent he is a Gryffindor. Read more

Because I was once young myself, I know that it’s hard for young people to imagine old wrinklies bumping uglies. I’m almost 70 and as capable of having an orgasm as I was when younger. More capable, in fact, because I’ve learned a thing or two.
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With all due respect you sound like someone who grew up with a mom. Many young women don’t have mom’s or any other women in their life to tak to about personal hygiene, beauty, etc. This woman is using her area of expertise- the beauty industry- to do something good. Read more

I tried a 6 month paid subscription on SA last year. I’d been doing combinations of Match, OKCupid, PoF, Eharmony, etc. for years with no real luck, so I gave it a try. It became apparent to me pretty quick that I didn’t want to spend the kind of money on allowances or gifts that women were asking for. Honestly I Read more

While we could have a whole dialogue about the concept of beauty, the beauty industry, how they relate to patriarchy/society, and how changes there could make a huge difference, the best-case-scenario at the end of it is an enormous task. Read more

I have NO beef with this concept. We have a list of needs to be met, and we want someone to meet those needs. Knowing yourself well enough to define what that should look like is fine. Read more

Yeah now after they had us plucking our eyebrows to shit for a decade, now I gotta grow em back in? Make up your mind, fashion. Read more

Besamé 1930 (noir red) and 1922 (blood red) are awesome blackish reds. They last all day too. Read more

I have LAX. I ended up using it as a lip tint mixed with some vaseline, but it looks bricky until you mix it with the vaseline, it brightens up to a wine. Read more

ColourPop also has a few in that category, if anyone wants a more budget-friendly option — maybe LAX or Mamacita? (I have LAX and it’s QUITE DARK INDEED, tho more bricky / less wine-y.) Read more

gaahhhh I knew that was a Mindy Tucker right away. Awesome. Read more