If you’re online dating, trying to get to know someone before meeting in person can easily backfire—you’ve built up a person in your head and an idea of shared intimacy that doesn’t actually exist and so it’s harder to actually see the person in front of you and figure out if there might be chemistry. Read more

Either that or they are buying a Lürpslærgen and need help assembling. Either way, it’s probably not something you want to be a part of. Read more

I am sorry for your loss. Don’t be afraid to ask someone (a woman) for help with the profile/photos/messages, once you’re ready to take the leap. I’ve occasionally given my phone to friends while we’re watching a movie or whatever and let them update my profile, and swipe/send intro messages. It can make it a bit more… Read more

I think it’s also important to remember that the WHOLE point of online dating is to meet in person. I have several friends that get really discouraged and it’s because they want to message with people for weeks and weeks without actually meeting, and then the other people fade out. That’s not dating, that’s a pen pal. Read more

Thank you for this article. I just happened to see it while reading my morning Jalopnik. Read more

This article was a big help, thank you. Im another “left a long term relationship, 3 years later....” type and i’ve been wanting to get on a horse i never got onto in the first place. Really im in my early 30s and all my relationships happened totally organically, with a friend making it clear she was interested in me… Read more

Once a guy actually asked me to guess how expensive his jeans were. Read more

I feel like you’re joking but I actually DID have a dog named “D O G” (or Deogie as we spelled it) he was a stray that just wandered up to my dad when he was working in the garage. He was the 2nd smartest dog I ever had. We also had a dog named “Puppy” (his REAL NAME—I was 4 when we got him and my refusal to say…

Somewhere there’s a picture of me, probably a little younger than 8, riding an elephant at the Bronx zoo. I feel terrible every time I think about it. Read more

I feel like we need a daily post about the joys in this world to distract us all from the constant raging dumpster fire of reality. Read more

I really appreciate the apology of [this powerful man] who has done a lot for [my political party/prevailing ideology/hobby/entertainment of choice]. He really fucked up, but he seems sincere, and I think he deserves a chance to make it right. Let’s take him at his word and stop this witch hunt. What he did was wrong.… Read more

I had surgery recently in which I laid on the table, awake, watching a surgeon burn out veins in my leg with a laser. Doctor fires up the laser and there is this disgusting stench in the room and I say “OMG what is that smell?!” and the doctor says “Oh, that’s a taste, not a smell. We can’t smell anything. You’re… Read more

Beloved seasonal classic. Not to get all food snobby, but in my experience, the vast majority of people who dislike Thanksgiving turkey are the ones who don’t know how to cook it properly. Yes it takes a long time to make, this is why we only do it once a year. Not because it’s inferior to other foodstuffs. Brine it,… Read more

Here’s the simple fact: It’s The New York Times Read more

Bengal tiger baby at San Diego Safari Park on Wednesday.

So can we assume that nobody is telling Drumph about Area 51 now? Read more

I sometimes carry my ulock on my handle bars when I’m riding in the dark. I don’t know if it would actually be helpful, but i can reach it quickly. I also imagine I can use “hey Siri call 911 if I absolutely had to” but I’m sure she’d only let me down. I’m probably screwed if someone actually wanted to mess with me,… Read more

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